Day 5 of "30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself"

You were born an original. 

Don’t become a copy.

#5 Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you. Haha every night when I read each one of these I have to laugh. I feel like the author was writing specifically about me! I am the worst when it comes to this. Like I said last night I always do whatever someone else wants. Well with this I take the cake. I like his favorite type of music... whatever it is today. I like his favorite movie... And tomorrow I will like the new one too. Yes dear that sounds great! Sure let's go do that! Oh I love that too! Pathetic that is all I can say is I was absolutely pathetic. Don't get me wrong I am not saying we never truly liked the same things. Of course we did or we would not have made it fifteen years. But I do have to admit I was never just me. I was always trying to be what I thought he would like more or would make him love me more. Maybe that was our downfall??? Maybe that is what made it last fifteen years??? Number five reminds me of one night we went out for my birthday last year. It was just us. We went somewhere I wanted to go! We ordered something I wanted to eat! We played pool and danced because I wanted to! We laughed, we kissed, we made passionate love, we had FUN!!! And you know what he said to me!? I can hear it now, "Why haven't you ever been like this before, I love this person, I love the way you are acting, I love you! I am sorry baby I ever hurt you!" That should have been my first clue!!! Instead I stood there in his arms crying as he held me close. Be ME what a wild idea... Guess I really need to work on that. This may be the most difficult task I have ever tackled in my life! Here we go...

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.