Day 1 of "30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself"

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.
My New Years resolution was to learn to start loving me again...and realize I AM worth loving! Thanks Laura for the inspiration and courage to finally take a real hard look at me. It is hard to admit, but I have been my "own worse enemy." Three years is a long time to wait...and wait...and then wait some more. I am done waiting, I'm ready to move on because I am worth it and I do DESERVE better. As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back. So I have decided to read and make the necessary changes daily "30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself." I figured maybe writing my own personal insight on each one daily, seeing it in black and white carved in cyberspace will help me in my journey of learning to LOVE ME again.

#1 Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

I thought for the past fifteen years he was my best friend, my lover, my soul mate. The one I would spend the rest of my life with. I've sat waiting, hoping for the past three years he would find out "the grass wasn't greener." I found myself telling him "Just go get it out of your system honey. I will be here when you come back." Praying one day we would go back to being our happy little family with the white picket fence. I know in my heart of hearts who my true friends are; the ones I can count on through thick and thin, day or night who will be there for me. LOL and he isn't nor was he ever one of them. All of my "true friends" have been trying to get me to wake up and smell the coffee the entire time. Over and over again telling me I deserve better. OK so I may be a little stubborn or slow at times. Not anymore I am going to start listening and do what is best for me... LET GO! If I need a sex toy I will just go to the Love Boutique... Enuf said ~ Goodnight

Here is a link to the article in full http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/