Yes, life is too short to worry about the little things. The worst part is I am a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to some things; Cooking, baking, crafting, work and I guess in a lot of ways my love life. Why is it when it comes to the matters of the heart, trying to stop "worrying about the little things" is a little easier said than done. Is it possible to have a perfect relationship? Or the better question is... Is it possible to have a perfect relationship with out letting your heart get involved or assigning labels? Can you be with a person you enjoy spending time with, laugh with, enjoy and share the same interests with, have passion and intimacy with - but never let your heart get involved? Why is it some people are so afraid to let go? Me included! Have fun enjoy life and let whatever happens happen! "Finish each day and be done with it... Tomorrow is a new day." HA!!! Again easier said then done.
I wish someone could show me where to find the on/off switch for emotions and everything that has to do with "the matters of the heart." Maybe it has to do with morale's. We are taught that passion and intimacy is something you are suppose to share with a person you are in love and in a relationship with. So what is the true definition of a relationship??? The definition of relationship is, "The way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected." So if you enjoy another persons company and the two of you have fun together does it matter if love is involved... Or if you use labels like boyfriend/girlfriend. Can't two people that are intimate and connected in every other way be in a perfect relationship, even if they never label that relationship or say those three words we have all come accustomed to thinking must go along with a relationship... The dreaded "I Love You.?"
Well instead of writing something that has already been said and written very eloquently I will share with you a recent post from my favorite blog that explains exactly how I feel at the moment. Words I have decided to try and live by!!!
I L___ You!
My boyfriend would probably rather see a dentist who uses a crowbar and a rusty set of pliers.
This used to bother me, a lot. I felt like I was being rejected. Five years together (well okay, not that many when you consider WWIII in the middle there, but still...) and no love? Really? Perhaps he didn't say it because he didn't care much about me, I thought.
But then I realized that those three words don't mean jack. I can say them to any guy walking down the street right now, and they are just hollow words. It's the actions that count... and in actions, he has shown me many times over that he loves me.
As I searched for the photo to accompany this entry, I came across a blog post that echoed a lot of my own thoughts.
"I
forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to need
confirmation that I am lovable, through my partner stating/saying “I
love you”.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and
allowed myself to need my partner to constantly tell me that she loves
me, so I don’t feel unlovable because I will feel unlovable if she does
not confirm that I am actually lovable through her stating/saying that
she loves me."
So, here goes to putting the baggage away like Embracing Womanhood says, allowing me to enjoy life and move forward without worrying about the labels or the words "I L___ You!" Thanks Laura... AGAIN :)
For those of you who follow Learning to Love Dawn you will also enjoying following my favorite blog I just stole the last post and photo from. Here's a link or you can find it listed as the first link under "Blogs I Follow" off to the right. Happy reading everyone! http://embracingsinglehood.posterous.com/
