#30 of 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

In case you have noticed I jumped from #26 to #30 of 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. Today I received an FB message from a friend, "Having a bad day need inspiration, blog, be grateful... something!"  I decided to grant their wish and blog but I think #30 fits the reason for the blog request the best so I will go back and do #27, #28 and #29 later. Thanks for understanding :)

Here is the conversation today which will bring light as to why I jumped ahead...  When I asked my friend, "What's wrong?" She responded, "I found out a friend was prego today." I responded, "Well that's cool... Why is that a bad day?" Her response, "I'm happy for them, I'm jealous I want to be married and have a baby." I responded, "Don't be jealous it will happen one day." Her response, "Thank you.  That's what I always hear and doubt that it will."  So here goes my dear friend for your request for inspiration. Remember you asked for it and I love you! You need to turn that frown upside down and SMILE!

We all need to be grateful for what we do have and stop worrying about "Keeping up with the Joneses." There is always going to be someone who has more than we do. Or something we wished we had. Envy and jealousy are evil, they hurt us, they are not our friends.  I would be lying if I didn't say I would like to be married, if I find the right man. Lately however I have come to realize it's okay if I stand alone. I do not need a man in my life to complete myself. I am blessed with all I have: My children, my health, my job, my car, my home, my sanity (okay, some of you may disagree with that), my friends and the little bit of money I do have. In short I am grateful for my life.

Let's take a quick look at reality... Along with #30 of 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself . "Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing."  Now close your eyes and imagine for a moment if you had to live in the shoes of someone else who would be envious or jealous of you... 

• The couple that has tried for years to have a child
• The person sitting next to the bedside of their loved one who is taking their last breath
• The parents that just had the doctor tell them, "I am so sorry we did all we could"
• The person whose boss called them in their office today, "Sorry we have to let you go"
• The person whose address is a shopping cart or cardboard box
• The person who has to walk everywhere, not because they choose to
• The person whose doctor just delivered the news, "I would start making plans, it won't be long"
• The person who digs through the dumpster for their next meal

Yes my dear there are happily married couples. I'm not sure on the national statistics but I would be willing to bet there are more that are unhappily married.  Like I said, "Don't be jealous it will happen one day." You have to have faith. Trust me, everything happens for a reason. Maybe your reason is your child needs you more now than you need a husband. Enjoy the little bit of time you have left, it's going to be over before you know it!  Maybe your time is coming... Maybe not?  God has his plan for all of us...  Psalm 37:4-8 ~ Enjoy serving the Lord, and he will give you what you want. Depend on the Lord; trust him, and he will take care of you. Then your goodness will shine like the sun, and your fairness like the noonday sun. Wait and trust the Lord. Don't be upset when others get rich or when someone else's plans succeed. Don't get angry. Don't be upset; it only leads to trouble. Your time will come... Be patient!

My friend, here's a great exercise that can help you be grateful for what you do have. Make a list of everything you have. Now look at that list. That's correct, it is a list and your wants are to be married and have a baby. I am willing to bet your list has more than two items. If you say no, you are only lying to yourself because I know otherwise :)  While we are on the path of exercise's here is another suggestion I found on Pinterest: Take a jar and throughout the year, write down memories on a small piece of paper that make you smile. Fold the paper and drop it in the jar. On New Year's Eve, open it up and reread all of the good stuff that made the year wonderful! I love this idea, gotta do it myself!

I hope this gave you the inspiration you needed. Thanks... Because it helped me!!! I love you and I know you are STRONG enough! That is all